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When Did it Become Okay? Pt. 2

Cassandra Skully Massacre
Mar 18, 2015
2 min read

I know a girl who is the sweetest girl I've ever meet, she would do anything for anyone, she always has a smile on, and she is dating a controlling man. Every time she wants to go out her concern is if he will get mad at her, all her stories end in him getting mad at her. He tends to dictate what she can and can't do, who she can and can't hang out with, and where she can and can't go. The topic of controlling men came up with some of my friends, and I brought up her story. I was asked....

"Does she love him?"

A friend of mine just went through a divorce. Once the divorce papers started her friends and family started to come to her and tell her stories of the man she was married to. Stories that if she knew from the start she wouldn't have married him and it would have saved herself a lot of heartache. She confronted one friend and asked "If you knew this from the start, why didn't you tell me?" The reason that was offered was....

"You seemed so happy!"

During the last year I've listened to stories from people who tell me that someone they knows significant other was flirting with them. I've heard the stories be reasoned with "I don't flirt back" or "I tell them to stop and they don't". On a couple of instances I've ventured into asking the question "Why not tell the person?" To this the response has always been....

"I don't want to hurt them."